Do you find yourself not wanting to get up in the morning? You know you have lots to do but you still want to lay down in bed, to think for 10 seconds and then you get up yet thinking that what you plan for today is not useful enough to get up in bed and then you get back in bed.
Has this happening regularly in the morning? Or even late at night? Do you consider yourself unhappy because you are feeling this way almost every time? I am no Einstein but when the answer is YES I will already know how you feel unhappy. I made an observation about myself lately and the lists below are what makes me think the reason of a person’s unhappiness.
1. Worrying
I do this all the time. I worry about things that is not in my control. I worry about other’s problem. I worry about what will be happening to me tomorrow. I worry about the money I will give to my mother, to pay the debt, to pay the bills and to pay for my medicine. Worrying is my constant companion that I hate to be with. It is useless. Even if worrying is part of your Plan B in solving some problems, there are some instance that it is not the solution to the problem itself because along the way or maybe in the middle, there are people or things that will be a factor of ruining everything. The best thing is to act on it when it happens, just be prepared to solve the problems. It doesn’t matter how fast or slow, but being there right at the moment to solve the problem is just enough to stay calm and solve it. Worrying will only stress you and produces wrinkles so better stop doing it.
2. Grudge
one of the reason why a person is not steady happy is because once they saw their most admirable enemy, frenemy, monster.inc or whatever you call them, it surely ruin your day. Once you saw them, the blood flows in your head, making you appear red, the temperature of your body will rise and then you feel you are bull about to kill them. Of course, it is not easy to forgive and forget, but if you will have that kind of feeling whenever you see them and it will ruin your day, isn’t it fair to feel that way, alone? It is quite unfair that it ruin your day, and YOUR day, not them. Anyway, there is a quick face to that and that is to divert the negativities into something else. If you see them, then you see them. Let it slide. When you feel your getting stress and the temperature is rising, drink water. It is not easy to say I will stop this grudge today. I know you are joking. This process requires a lot of time to heal the pain of yesterday. It will take time so take your time. If you feel you still have it, divert your attention and as much as possible do not entertain yourself to think of that person.
3. Labeling Yourself
one of the reason why a person is not happy is because they are labeling themselves. The example are you tell yourself you are a. I tell myself that way whenever I did not get the job I wanted or when a site I was working on closed down. If you check deeper, what do I got to do with the situation? Closing down a site is out of my involvement. It is a digression of the owner of the site. Some situation became a factor to let the site not to continue up and running. On the other hand, not getting a job might something to do with some qualification that I did not met. Maybe I am under qualified or overqualified for the standard. It doesn’t make me a loser because my qualification might be useful to other companies, I just need to keep looking. And hey, I have a new job right now so I am not a loser at all. Labeling yourself is hurting. Could you imagine that every day, you and yourself must be working as a team in improving your life and then you tell yourself you are a loser. Of course, yourself will get hurt on the process and no teamwork will ever happen, that is why you are unhappy. Start loving yourself. You might not be the best person for something but your existence might be helping someone to improve your life. You are very useful and very needed. God did not created you if you just let yourself down. He created you to live the life you ever dream because he knows you can have it and you can do it.
4. Having Your Own Rules
the question is, do you have your own rules? Does your rules able to help you in the way you live your life? For example, you do not go with people who are frank, those who have strong personalities because you are sensitive and you think you are weak. Because of that, your sensitivity and being weak improves a lot but not your growth as a person. Did you happen to think that these people you are avoiding to be with are the people who could hurt you a lot, but will tell you the truth about yourself? That when you realize it, will able to change yourself in the process, to help you to get better and better? Some rules of our lives might give us the feeling of comfort but remember, life is not about having comfort at all. A life well spent with a lot of hardship and struggle are the most meaningful and inspiring. Rearrange your rules now and make sure it is for your improvement not on your comfort.
5. You don’t know what you want
I want to put this on my number one but I put this on number five because a lot of people might not agree on this, however, this is really true. If you don’t know what you want in life, then you will not move yourself every day. You will not try new things. Your day will be the same as yesterday and that will assure you in the long run you will feel worthless and then unhappy. Maybe you want a car, a house, a family, foods, nice clothes, branded things, travel, but how specifically? You are not clear of what you really want in life. Be specific for the things you want, the goals you want to achieve so that your planning in having it will be clear enough for you to execute it.
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